The time that a family has when one of the spouses is a physician is limited. That's no surprise. Dr. D already finished training and has been practicing for one year, all the hope I had that once he finished training we would have more time and it would all be easier have been crushed. I have come to the conclusion that having those expectations are the real problem. Ever since our journey began I have been hoping and thinking that next rotation, next year, end of training etc things would get better. I wont take all the blame in thinking this, Dr. D would tell me those things and I would believe him. Its not his fault either, he didn't purposely trick me, he thought it would be like that too. However the reality of it is that it never truly gets better. Doctors have peoples lives on their hands its not like they can clock out at 5pm rain or shine, if a patient is crashing forget dinner plans, no one is coming home, but can you really blame them?
I know that if I was in the hospital or anyone in my family was I want to be able to count on the Doctors. I was actually in the situation of being in the hospital 2 years ago with my daughter and even though I haven't improved my nagging to my hubby about him not being home enough (which by the way it should have and as a new year resolution I plan on trying my best to stop) it did open my eyes to how doctors have all this pressure at the hospital and all I could hope and pray was that the doctors taking care of my baby didn't have a crazy wife at home complaining and stressing them out. I wanted and needed the doctor to be 100% focused on my daughter.
I think that if anyone who is married to a physician stops for a second before making a fuss over the time and hours the doctors spends away and puts themselves in the patients shoes, we would all be happier (patients, doctors and spouses).
That's not to say at all and by no means that I do this now, it means that I'm going to try to do it in 2011 and by writing about it is a way to hold myself accountable for it. It will still bug me and I will still blog about being annoyed but I will understand.